Arrogance (adj): Having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities

'Don't think too highly of yourself.' 'Be confident, but not too confident. '

This is advice you've probably been given before. You've probably given it out plenty of times, too. I'm here to inform you: This is terrible, personally destructive advice.

People ask me about getting better. Better at business, better at basketball. Better at dealing with people. If you're one of those people, you need to understand how improvement actually works.

For the most part, our brains control what we do. The limits to what we can do are just thoughts that we've repeated enough to believe them. We also know that the brain doesn't know the difference between reality and imagination. Meaning, anything we tell ourselves enough (the right way), we will believe and eventually act on.

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So, get internally arrogant. Start believing that you are on a higher level than your life-to-date results suggest. Tell yourself this enough, and you will act on it. You will carry yourself as a higher-level You. You will be perceived as the person you're presenting to others. And we conform to the expectations of the people around us and their perceptions of what we can and can't do. All of this will be the topic of my most recent TED Talk (video coming soon).

Humility (n): a modest or low view of one's own importance

Humility is the act of not thinking too highly of oneself. Enough humility repeatedly suggested, your brain will keep you right where you are. Do you now see where you may be stopping yourself?

Make a new friend of arrogance. Think too highly of yourself. Believe that you can do something you've never proven able to do. Walk in the room as if you own it. People will not approve - some silently, some out loud - but that's only because they're seeing something they don't have the balls to be. And the Law of Association states that you won't deal with these peasants anyway. So to hell with their opinions.

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You're not quite sure just yet if I'm right. Try it and see. Give it 30 days and let me know.